PERSONAL SAFETY & CRIME PREVENTION -

Domestic Abuse / Domestic Violence

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As many as four million people in this country suffer some kind of violence at the hands of their spouses, parents or significant partners each year. Very few will tell anyone - a friend, a relative, a neighbor, or the police. Victims of domestic violence come from all walks of life, all cultures, all income groups, all ages, and all religions. They share feelings of helplessness, isolation, guilt, fear, and shame.

 

Are You Abused?

Does the person you love...

• Keep track of all of your time?
• Constantly accuse you of being unfaithful?
• Discourage your relationships with family and friends?
• Prevent you from working or attending school?
• Criticize you for little things?
• Anger easily when drinking or using other drugs?
• Control all finances and force you to account in detail for what you spend?
• Humiliate you in front of others?
• Destroy personal property or sentimental items?
• Hit, punch, slap, kick, or bite you or the children?
• Use or threaten to use a weapon against you?
• Threaten to hurt you or the children?
• Force you to have sex against your will?

 

If you find yourself saying yes to any of these, it's time to get help.

 

Don't Ignore the Problem

Talk to someone. Part of the abuser's power comes from secrecy. Victims are often ashamed to let anyone know about intimate family problems. Go to a friend or neighbor, or call a domestic violence hotline to talk to a counselor.

 

Plan ahead and know what you will do if you're attacked again. If you decide to leave, choose a place to go; set aside some money. Put important papers - marriage license, birth certificates, and checkbooks - in a place where you can get to them quickly. Learn to think independently. Try to plan for the future and set goals for yourself.

 

If You Are Hurt, What Can You Do?

There are no easy answers, but there are things you can do to protect yourself. Call the police or sheriff. Assault, even by family members, is a crime. The police have information about shelters and other agencies that help victims of domestic violence.

 

Leave, or have someone come and stay with you. Go to a shelter for victims of domestic violence and abuse, call a crisis hotline in your community or a health center to locate a shelter. If you believe that you, and your children, are in danger, leave immediately.

 

Get medical attention from your doctor or a hospital emergency room. Ask the staff to photograph your injuries and keep detailed records in case you decide to take legal action.

 

Contact your family court for information about a civil protection order that does not involve criminal charges or penalties.

 

Have You Hurt Someone in Your Family?

• Accept the fact that your violent behavior will destroy your family.
• Be aware that you break the law when you physically hurt someone.
• Take responsibility for your actions and get help.
• When you feel tension building, get away. Work off the angry energy through a walk, a project, a sport.
• Call a domestic violence hotline or health center and ask about counseling and support groups for people who batter.

 

The High Costs of Domestic Violence

• Men and women who follow their parents' example and use violence to solve conflicts are teaching the same destructive behavior to their children.
• Jobs can be lost or careers stalled because of injuries, arrests, or harassment.
• Violence may even result in death.

 

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For More Information:

 

Domestic Violence Hotline

800.799.SAFE

This nationwide toll-free hotline will provide immediate crisis intervention, counseling and referrals to emergency shelters and services.

 

National Resource Center on Domestic Violence

800.537.2238

 

Family Violence Prevention Fund

383 Rhode Island Street, Suite 304

San Francisco, CA 94103-5133

415.52.8900

 

Source:
National Crime Prevention Council

 

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